Dating someone who recently broke up
But modern men and women don’t have modern brains, they have cavebrains…this is a core belief of evolutionary psychology.So while times have changed—getting dumped no longer means dying in the wild—our emotions are the same as they were 10,000 years ago.
So, in 2011, if a woman gets dumped, how soon until she’s ready to get back into a long-term relationship?
Well, pretty freaking soon, thanks to her cavebrain instincts.
Now, keep in mind what pain is: an evolutionary adaptation meant to keep you out of harm’s way. Tens of thousands of years ago pair-bondings were essential to a woman for food, protection, and late-night caveman spooning.
If you didn’t feel pain, you’d happily stand in fire, or run around till you died of exhaustion…pain sucks, but it helps you survive. If something happened to put these in jeopardy, those with strong pain reactions would cope best.
He also couldn’t sign up for marriage so soon after his wife had betrayed him and he spent years in litigation. When one had a happy marriage, they tend to want to be married again.